Letter: I Am So Angry
University of Utah campus. (Photo by Paige Gardner | The Daily Utah Chronicle)
January 27, 2022
I’m so angry. I’m angry that, despite the efforts of those who dealt with discrimination before me, we still face discrimination. I’m angry that, despite my experiences and battles, I still deal with racism. I’m angry that the generation after me will also suffer because people are unwilling to change. I’m angry that many will say they were never taught. I can’t fault them for that, but it is the fault of the system we have here that we don’t learn about these injustices. I am angry that despite asking for these tough topics to be taught, we are not heard. The Chinese Exclusion Act and the Topaz internment camps are glided over in American History textbooks and Utah history textbooks.
Asian Americans often aren’t heard because we are perceived as the “model minority” — a concept to keep minorities pinned against one another and to allow for privileges to arise. The worst part about it is that it’s so isolating for many of us. White people often group us with people of color while people of color group us with white people because they’re told we are the model minority. We are only the model minority because we are silent and too nervous to “stir the pot.” I myself am a people pleaser because that’s what children of Asian immigrants are often told to be. I’m mad at myself for this. I know I lose sight of my sense of self and my priorities because I get so entranced by white people’s approval. I temporarily forget how hard it is for me and people who look like me. I’m more willing to brush pain aside because I want to be accepted. I am 23 and I’ve already had an overwhelming amount of racist encounters. I believe myself to be fairly resilient, so I wonder — how do others cope with these encounters?
I can’t help but wonder why. Why is this still happening? Have I not struggled enough? Have I not done enough to shield myself? Ultimately, the actions of others are out of my hands, but I hate feeling powerless. It’s not even blatant racism — it’s the microaggressions. They are a leak in our roofs. We put bucket upon bucket to collect the water, we empty each one, but the water keeps flooding. Despite all the efforts to educate, create communities or be heard, there are always obstacles that keep us from making actual repairs. It is because it’s not something that can be accomplished by us alone.
I’m so mad at the people who fail to see their own privilege. I’m mad at them for not using their advantage to help those of us who need it. I get so mad when people don’t take the time to reflect upon their privilege. The ones who refuse to actually be uncomfortable with the thought that they may have advantages that others do not have. With that, consider your own.
I am frustrated that people don’t have this conversation because it is too hard or too upsetting to discuss. I am frustrated that people don’t want to be told they are racist. I am frustrated that some people will avoid discussion and attempt to gaslight themselves out of it. I am frustrated people pretend it doesn’t happen because it is easier for them, which is itself a privilege.
I am exhausted. People (typically white people) don’t want to take the time to educate themselves. Instead, they want those of us who have experienced it to relive our (sometimes traumatic) experiences and explain our perspective. This takes an emotional toll on the individual recounting their story. I am tired of having to list out why something they said is offensive or a microaggression. It isn’t my job to explain the nitty-gritty details. It isn’t my job to have to justify my stance because another person of color said otherwise. I am so worn out from having to double down on how I feel just to make the offending person more comfortable.
I am upset at everyone who doesn’t acknowledge or try to make a difference because they’ve resigned themselves to helplessness. I’m mad that privately, many people express the same concerns and unhappiness as I do publicly, but are too scared to discuss it with their white peers out of fear of being seen as too sensitive or not wanting to be cast out. I am angry at how many are involved in the system that has negatively impacted me. I am mad that there are many individuals who don’t want to learn more about these tragedies.
I am frustrated that, as an individual, I am frequently not heard. I try so hard to be heard and included, it is exhausting. I am mad that this time last year is when I began to see an increase in violence towards Asian elders — violence that has now spilled over to an increase in hate crimes towards Asian Americans. I am filled with so much anger at how unfair and unjust the world is. I implore those of you reading this to take a moment to reflect upon your privileges and make active efforts to help those who may not be so fortunate. We should do better. We can do better. We can do better not only for those in the present but also for those in the future.
— Serena Aeschilman, University of Utah student
Abby Feenstra • Feb 7, 2022 at 10:37 am
I want to commend Serena for being brave enough to write something like this, when she knew full well it would receive backlash, and that backlash would exacerbate the exact emotional burden she referenced in her article. I know Serena and I’ve worked with Serena, and Serena does choose love over hate. If anything, this piece is an expression of that choice. Loving a university and loving humanity and loving society does not mean never criticizing it, or never being angry. If Serena didn’t love her fellow human beings of all racial backgrounds, she wouldn’t write something like this. This piece reflects how much Serena does love and care about the world she lives in and the people she shares that world with. She’s telling those people that she’s hurt, and that other people are hurt, and she wants a world where people aren’t hurt. What could be a more true expression of love?
And a quick note: several comments in this thread have made assumptions about student experiences at the university, particularly that students have never experienced a lack of food or a lack of shelter. I would encourage anyone who thinks that college students cannot be starving or homeless to check out the work of the university’s Homeless Student Task Force, the Food Pantry, and the Basic Needs Center. Quite a few students at the U do not have stable housing or food, so one should never assume.
John Hedberg • Feb 10, 2022 at 3:15 pm
And yet, Abby, your ally-ship with me is somehow entirely missing, which wouldn’t be the case unless you were negatively assuming yourself, and painting those assumptions onto others without Love, thereby undermining the whole premise of your ‘justified outrage!’😄. I actually represent a fraction of the population which rarely ever makes it to college, and because of scars and poverty, isn’t usually stable enough to graduate when we do. It’s only by blind luck that I’m able to be here, “privileged” to stand as the innocent target of all your entitled stereotyping (hatred). Gosh, that’s never happened before! LOL
The folks who’ve faced the most challenges and genuine deprivations in life don’t typically complain and blame others first without questioning and taking responsibility for their own feelings and actions, since they don’t want to repeat the entitled hateful behavior which went along with the scars and deprivations they had to endure. That’s something to think about the next time you assume! 😋
Yes, there are absolutely good folks here at college who are struggling with genuine challenges. After awhile, you will notice that they’re not the ones who are generally complaining the loudest, or blaming other people, rather than taking the responsibility, since they actually had to grow up in order to be here. Love is a choice of how to see and treat each other, not a feeling. The genuine feeling, when it happens, is usually a consequence of the choice, and sometimes doesn’t catch up until long after the choice has been acted upon.
Make sense?
With Love,
J Hedberg
John Hedberg • Feb 11, 2022 at 9:59 am
Abby,
For the record, I entirely support and identify with Serena and what she’s going through, since what she’s going through is part of virtually everyone’s experience. I feel what she feels, but I also know that choosing to perceive others as being hateful, whether or not they actually are, is one of the primary causes of the same kind of grievance she’s feeling: while assuming that someone else is behaving wrongly to her, she’s manifesting that same wrong behavior to someone who may be entirely unaware of how she’s feeling. Assuming hate and grievance tends to spread needless suffering and bring about abject outcomes for everyone.
Love, on the other hand, doesn’t assume the worst, since we all know what it feels like to be wrongly judged, and we don’t want to repeat that crime onto others out of compassion. So, we take responsibility for our own feelings, since very often, others have no idea what we’re going through, and many would empathize if they knew, since we’re all human together.
Think about what would happen if a new parent, for instance, decided that an infant hated them every time the child cried. The child doesn’t know how they’re affecting others, but if the parent chose to focus only on their own negative feelings, the “fact” that when the child cried, they “felt” hated, how long do you think that little human will survive? Typically, children teach us how to be human, because they force us to think about their feelings first, to assume a cry is not an attack, but an appeal for help. To do this, parents have to learn to take responsibility for their own feelings and how they choose to perceive their necessary suffering, not assume the necessary suffering is someone else’s “fault”, and make a choice to see the child as a person, through the lens of Love, someone who may not know they’re causing distress, but who still needs their Love anyway.
This is how adults learn to look at each other, with that same Love. We’re all suffering from time to time, we may not be aware of how others may be affected, and just as our parents did, who cringed while they listened to our cries, we need to develop the capacity to suffer through the noise and see the person who may be in need, who may not even realize that they’re broadcasting. This means ditching the hateful assumptions about other people every time you have a bad feeling, and instead taking responsibility to identify with that person instead, to find out and understand what’s actually happening with them, and if needed, to treat them the same way you’d like to be treated if you were in need, with the Love your parents showed you when you were being loud.
I entirely identify with Serena’s experience, and I empathize with her suffering, but I’m letting her know that in falsely attributing other people as being hateful, and blaming them as the cause of her suffering, when they may be totally innocent, she’s actually abandoning the loving example of everyone who’s been good to her when her own imperfections caused pain to those around her, people who viewed her as a human person worth more than the momentary irritation she may be causing, a person very much like themselves, with all the imperfections, which Love forgives, and all the worth and potential, which Love aspires to nurture and blossom.
So, choosing to see others as haters is actually choosing to be a hater yourself, and bigots form the habit of going around looking for false justifications/false grievances for the hatred they’ve already decided to dish out onto the “deserving”, most of whom are completely innocent people just living their lives.
When I ask Serena to Love instead, I’m asking her to return to strangers what all our parents gave freely to us, whether we were “deserving” or not, whether we were causing them suffering or not, because they identified with us and chose to Love what was good, rather than condemn and hate us for our flaws. We all share the good and the flaws as human beings, but we only flourish when we Love like grown up parents do (some would say like God’s Infinite Love, the ultimate example of parenthood). When we abandon Love, children die for no reason, because we refused to be grown up enough to see through life’s necessary suffering, acknowledge we’re all imperfect and all still growing, and choose to Love everyone else as we’ve been ourselves, with our best hopes and capacities.
Is any of this landing with you? I’m entirely with Serena in her suffering, which we’ve all shared, but I’m letting her know that the way she’s choosing to perceive others around her is hateful and leads to greater suffering, whereas sucking up the pain and choosing to perceive others with Love gives all the suffering meaning, when we add to others the same way our parents added to us all during those ungrateful years of our infancy.
Everyone here at the University of Utah is massively privileged compared to 98+% of humanity, even those (like me) who’ve had to live with malnutrition and homelessness at times as a student going back to elementary school, because we’re in an atmosphere with a bunch of folks who largely want us to succeed, out of Love and compassion and (sometimes) plain affection! I laugh whenever I hear a U student talking about privilege as if they’ve ever been without it, seeing where they’re standing while the rest of the planet suffers in genuine poverty. That said, I am you, and I feel your suffering, and I Love you, even if I cringe at some of the things you say while I try to teach you what I paid for in sometimes hard “experience” to learn.
I talk too much!
Cheers!
J Hedberg
John Hedberg • Jan 28, 2022 at 9:37 pm
Serena,
You sound human, and so does your struggle. That doesn’t make it any less real, but it does mean you’re not only not alone, but most of us at any given moment are sharing your experience to some degree. Like all humans, life leaves you with a choice:
You can choose to Love everyone despite all the imperfections we share so clearly with each other, or you can choose to justify your fear of being hurt, and tell yourself that YOUR hatred – not everyone else’s, just yours – is somehow justified when you know how wrong it is to be hated. Everyone’s experienced that!
This choice determines your perceptions. With Love, you never assume the worst about others, but seek to understand their perspective and the complex “why” behind their behavior, forgiving them where you can, and reasoning with them when that’s needed. You know your own imperfection and how easy it is to misunderstand or cause misunderstandings, and so seeing everyone around you as just as human as you are in their fallibility, great worth, and wonderful potential, you treat them with compassion, empathy, friendship, because in nearly every sense, every human being on earth shares so much with you in what they experience that there’s no denying that we’re family, all the way through. These are the perceptions that follow the choice to love every human being as a person, and as family.
The other choice is assuming the worst, and looking for justifications to gratify the hatred you’ve chosen to assume is justified when pointed at anyone else but YOU, as if you’re somehow not just as erroneous, silly, occasionally thoughtless, and perfectly forgivable as the rest of us you share so much with. Choosing hate means looking for the worst and saying it’s true, even when there is clear evidence to the contrary. Eventually, the hate is all you can see, you start treating everyone as less than human like the Nazi’s, the Communists, and Jim Crow Democrats, and ironically you tell yourself and everyone else that you’re doing it because the people you hate are so dangerous, which is what these haters told themselves. In fact, as Gandhi so insightfully pointed out, the real devils are in our own souls, and it’s in each of us that the true battle between good and evil is fought. Will we decide to accept and love our own humanity and each others’, with all its flaws and wondrous potential, or will we walk with the devils and dehumanize everything and everyone, while we blame them for the hatred we pour out of our own souls based on a choice we made not to Love?
There’s no such thing as privilege. That only means someone else looks happy in your PERCEPTION while you’re feeling miserable, so you decide to blame them for your feelings rather than taking responsibility for them, like a grown up would, and doing something to change them for the better.
This isn’t a racial thing, nor gender or other identity, just an issue of maturity, a human thing.
We all seem to know the history you say we were never taught, so how is that possible? Somehow, this history you say I never learned taught me not to dehumanize people, but instead to see them with Love as brothers and sisters. Did it teach you not to dehumanize the rest of us, whose ignorance you seem to assume the worst about, despite all the contradictory evidence?
Your choice of Love will alter your perceptions as you practice it, like a doctor practices medicine. This is medicine for the human soul, and it’s also the basis of human civilization, this acceptance and love of family, even in the midst of all our imperfections, acknowledging and celebrating the achievements as well as the errors, because we’re learning all the time, and with Love, it only gets better and better.
So, while acknowledging the errors of discrimination and hatred which you seem to practice even while you tell us how wrong it is, keep in mind the achievements, too. How many hundreds of thousands of loving people chose to suffer, bleed, and die to end slavery in this country and fight for the possibility of freedom for others around the world, people who died by the millions out of Love for people they often never met and never would, simply so as Dr. King did, we can look forward to a day in common where all the children of an Infinite Love sit down together as family at a table, and under a tent, that has no limits, simply a wonderful choice by so many humans to preserve and uphold the best potentials in all of us, and in all to come.
As Buddha correctly surmised, suffering is a universal human constant, but how we choose to react defines what our own humanity really amounts to. Like Christ and so many others of every diversity, putting effort/faith behind Love gives the endless and unavoidable suffering meaning, makes the efforts worthwhile in what we give each other, and creates joy we can share together in the work, even laughter together in the midst of occasional tears. We share the “happy burden” of our choice to celebrate achievement in the midst of necessary suffering rather than devolve into self-pity like spoiled children, and this is enough together around the campfire at night, along with a song and a dance, and a story or two under the knowing, eternal stars.
Let me know what you choose! 🙂
All the Best, With Love,
J Hedberg (undergrad)
Gaby Torres • Jan 29, 2022 at 5:31 pm
John,
“What is it America has failed to hear?…It has failed to hear that the promises of freedom and justice have not been met. And it has failed to hear that large segments of white society are more concerned about tranquility and the status quo than about justice and humanity.” -Dr. King
Don’t blindly quote figureheads to minimize the struggles of an a member of an oppressed group and claim that they are being hateful because they are asking you to look for the practices you hold and perpetuate that create environments that allow this hatred to persist.
Serena is asking you to look inside yourself to help deconstruct the privileges you and I and all of us hold so that together we can do as you have said which is work to make a society that holds one another up.
Racism is hatred, Racism is violence, and to minimize Serena’s experience with racism and her reaction is to not give her that “Infinite Love” that you say we all deserve.
All the Best, With Love,
G Torres (undergrad)
John Hedberg • Jan 30, 2022 at 7:22 am
Gaby,
The fact that you assume “privileges” against stereotyped groups of people without any evidence against the millions of individuals you broadly paint & accuse is the precise hallmark of the bigotry Dr. King and diverse legions in civil rights have fought against, bled, and died to end for thousands of years. In other words, you’re telling people hatred is wrong while practicing the same hatred in the same reprehensible manner, and saying more hatred will cure itself, when Dr. King himself knew 60 year ago that “darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that”. How many others espousing that love have proven the same over the millennia?
Maybe shut off your phone and find out your “privilege” is all in your own head, because you’re assuming the worst out of hate, yourself dehumanizing innocent human beings, rather than understanding your own imperfections and offering care out of the Love that Dr. King (a Christian minister) clearly espoused? Because by your own words, the racist is now you.
Suffering (of which racism is only a slim small part) is part of the human equation, unavoidable because we’re all equally imperfect in our human frailties as we strive to develop and express the best in our equally wonderfully diverse human potentials. Pointing out that we all (including myself) experience suffering (including racism) is not minimizing anyone, but including everyone, which is fair because it is true. Denying that would be minimizing the suffering of everyone else who’s sharing the experience. I’m paraphrasing Buddha (and Christ, among many many diverse others) by offering Love as a solution to suffering for all of us who are stuck in the false perception that we’re alone in our humanity and our suffering, and become tempted like adolescents to blame our feelings on innocent strangers rather than take responsibility for making them better, like Mom & Dad would for you! It’s in sharing the burden, with Love, that the burden becomes victory in each one of our hearts, spreading like wildfire. It’s a simple matter of choice to meet life’s necessary suffering, not like a spoiled child in a heap of baseless and snarling self-pity, but rather like women and men who’ve formed compassion and intelligence for each other’s mutual frailties and strengths, and use these tools to overcome the devils inside, where they truly reside in our own hearts.
Taking responsibility for our own suffering (and each others’) and the feelings suffering provokes, out of Love, is the key to our full humanity in maturity. Choosing hatred, where we can all live in a Middle East-like state that only feeds on itself into cyclical destruction, seems like a very poor 2nd place. Choose Love, and everything our parents hold dear in our mutual inner (human) worth has the opportunity to learn, to grow, and express itself beyond those narcissistic fantasies of infant-like perpetual grievances.
All the Best, With Love,
J Hedberg
Angela Lezaic • Jan 29, 2022 at 6:48 pm
John,
I believe you said it best with the line, “Most of us at any given moment are sharing your experience to some degree” — but the emphasis should be on the word some. While we are all victims of the system, I encourage you to examine the ways that others are impacted by history and current events differently than you and I (AKA two white people). This is an opportunity for us to not only listen to Serena’s story, but to ask ourselves how we can stand in solidarity and love with her and take down these obstacles for people who share her identity.
Additionally, it is not okay to try to spin this around on Serena by claiming the issue is her not choosing to love everybody. She wrote this letter in response to experiencing not only a lack of love from her peers, but also facing explicit racism from them. If you want to promote love, I suggest you join an anti-racist group rather than reciting platitudes online to victims.
Serena has very bravely decided to stand up against the very attitudes that motivate the comment you posted under her article. Please have some respect for her and attempt to understand her perspective, rather than shying away from it because of any discomfort you may feel.
I would also suggest that you educate yourself on Martin Luther King, especially considering last week was MLK Day. It is disrespectful to misquote him and reduce him and his work to quiet and peaceful, when he was a complex person who was arrested multiple times and eventually killed by our government. Ghandi also is not the most honorable person to look up to, considering the fact he was a child molester (1).
Your comment is a prime example how there is, in fact, such a thing as privilege. Privilege is being able to attend this university without seeing, let alone experiencing, the very things Serena has. Privilege is thinking that capitalizing the first letter of the word love and telling marginalized groups to respond to racism with Love is a sufficient solution. Privilege is going back to class on Monday to sit in an environment that is catered perfectly towards you at the expense of others. It is quite bold of you to assume you have somehow unlocked the secrets of the universe, and that you are the king of perception. Serena is not the one lacking perspective, nor is she the one blaming misery on others. Please take responsibility for your feelings as a mature and grown person would, and do something to change them and the world for the better.
If you want to quote Buddha, maybe decide how your reaction defines what your own humanity really amounts to. Are you actively bettering this world by trying to snub a woman of color in her own post about her own experiences? Are your regurgitated takes changing the structures of our school? Are you aware of the impact of your words when you deem racism as necessary suffering, and the reaction to it as childish self pity?
And lastly, do not use the struggles of enslaved Black people in this country to undermine the experiences of other People of Color, because that is vile and insulting to them and their legacy.
Let me know what YOU choose,
All the best, with Love,
A Lezaic (undergrad)
(1) http://www.ofmi.org/gandhis-sexual-abuse-of-grandnieces/
John Hedberg • Jan 30, 2022 at 8:06 am
Angela,
I am you. I am Serena. I am a human being, and what we share together equally is a human experience, and is far far more, and far more important, than your biased and hateful bigotries and racist fantasy, or the grievances that result when you choose to take all of your worst feelings and your worst assumptions and paint the blame on innocent groups of other human beings, which is the act of dehumanizing us, rather than act like an adult, and take responsibility for the suffering we all share together as frail, but wonderfully ‘full of potential’, individual humans.
Grow up! No one here has done anything to you, or to Serena, except treat you as equals by talking with you openly and honestly, as adults. See if you can reciprocate?
I don’t claim I can address any action Mr. Gandhi may or may not have initiated that was criminal, since I wasn’t there, and he has no way to defend himself from any accusation 70 year after he was martyred for defending human rights, even the rights of those who claimed they were his enemies. The words I did quote of his were true, so maybe deflect less with your ad hominem attacks, and think more with your humanity about what he said? Just a thought! 😋
Your own decision to hate, rather than Love, produces the perceptions you now espouse as truth, that certain groups of people you stereotype suffer differently, feel differently, and have different worth out of your own personal feelings of vindictiveness based only on your own worst feelings about them as you dehumanize them, rather than actually talking with diverse people and hearing that we’re all equal in our humanity and the human experience of suffering. Rather than taking responsibility for making your own feelings better out of Love, you give in to an inner tantrum where “someone else” is to blame, rather than do what your parents taught you to do: buck up, stand up, and make something good happen, so you’ll feel better and everyone you Love around you can share in that Love and benefit from the grown up responsibility you took, as an equal adult in your equal humanity. Try it. “Got Love?”
The choice is always yours. Love or hate. Adulthood, or snarling and narcissistic adolescent grievances which never end, because human suffering is a human constant, and only you can choose not to blame innocent others for how you react, but to Love and resolve your own suffering, and others’, out of compassion for all our mutual imperfections, as well as hope and appreciation of all our diverse and mutual potentials! That’s a “happy burden”, and it’s only a choice away. An adult choice, because responsibility takes work and effort, rather than the red-faced self-defeating hypocritical tantrum I hear coming out of your “Gandhi” inner devils! 😀
Just to round this out, if you don’t see me as equal and human because of characteristics I was born with, when I’ve done nothing wrong to you as a person, then the dehumanizer and racist is you, by your own words, and “darkness cannot drive out darkness, only light can do that”. Dr. King chose Christian ministry as his profession at Boston University because he believed above all in the truth of Love. His hope for his grandchildren is the hope of all loving parents and diverse human family, that we stand together in that Love amidst all the inevitable suffering, so we can sit down together in quiet times and talk, play, dance, tell stories, and share each others’ burdens to bring about joy. Your racism (your self-defeating choice to hate) doesn’t bring about that vision. It never has.
Choose better? 💛
All the Best, With Love,
J Hedberg
John Hedberg • Jan 31, 2022 at 10:48 am
“And lastly, do not use the struggles of enslaved Black people in this country to undermine the experiences of other People of Color, because that is vile and insulting to them and their legacy.”
Angela,
This quote of yours is a little bit too funny! There ARE no black enslaved people in this country. Why is that, you may wonder? Because hundreds of thousands of Abolitionist children, whose families never owned slaves, marched South in 1861 to bleed and die to free good folks they never met and never would, whose only reparation was the knowledge that our future children of all flavors would someday be born into a “more perfect union” of even greater liberty and opportunity, where we could become the family God’s Infinite Love made us to be.
Who do you think cared enough to send their own children to bleed and die to free enslaved people at home and abroad for centuries?
My grandmother (may she rest in Peace) used to tell me stories of our family’s Abolitionist roots. When you tell the families who sacrificed blood to free people they never enslaved, out of Love, that we’re somehow less than human or equal in your eyes for educating you on our common struggle against mutual human suffering (“vile and insulting?”😂 – talk about ‘head up your a**’!), a struggle we’ve all been bleeding and dying together to achieve for thousands of years, you just make yourself sound like a puerile, vindictive, and unappreciative, and ignorant “a-hole”, if I can use that word here.
Did you think about the suffering, and tireless centuries of struggle, by all the people who came before you, to make sure you had the opportunity to mouth off to the whole community here at our extremely luxurious world-class university, where you’ve never gone hungry, unsheltered, or unloved, while millions of actual deprived people are starving and malnourished, imprisoned, enslaved, exposed to the elements, vulnerable to violence, rape, extortion, ignorance, and war, people who will never enjoy the nearly unlimited privileges you’ve obviously taken for granted all your long life? Do you even have a job? To all those who’ve actually been sacrificing to make things better, and all those who’ve come before who did the same, even to shedding of their own blood and loss of family members, just so you can enjoy the prosperity you’re using to throw all of that back in our collective faces out of imagined grievance, racist bigotry, and hateful self-pity, maybe at some point you’ll mature enough, and peek out of your narcissistic fantasy long enough, to show other people of all diversities and backgrounds some simple gratitude for what we’ve achieved together.
SURELY, someone of your advanced virtue and values must have thought about gratitude for the human beings whose sacrifice has literally provided you everything?
In closing, we all “F” up at times, and we’re all equally human in our frailties, errors, and imperfections, as well as equally lovable and forgivable in our worth and potentials, so if you ever find that you’ve completely screwed up in some particular instance, Love is always just a choice away, and Love forgives and overcomes all error, since it means we’re family, we’re all growing somewhere along the learning spectrum, and we look out for each other in that compassion and understanding: we’re One in life’s unavoidable suffering, and also in overcoming that suffering in joy and celebration together!
With Love, All the Best,
J Hedberg