Editor:

There has been a discussion recently in letters to the editor about the trend of women to dress in a way that expresses their sexual nature and how this dress objectifies them. Valid points have been made on both sides, but I’d like to point out that people who emphasize sex too much are shooting themselves in the foot. Over the past forty years, society in the United States has moved sex into the limelight and has mutated it into a goal in itself. The key dynamic that has been buried is that relationships are drastically more fulfilling and rewarding when they are based on commitment rather than sex. A rewarding relationship is a vibrant tapestry of intimate interaction on many levels. While sex can be beautifully woven into this experience, a subtle golden motif in the panorama of color, when physical intimacy develops as the main theme, the experience becomes superficial and gaudy. The relationship does not fulfill the deeper, more complex human need for spiritual intimacy.

Studies have shown that people who engage in commitment and intimate interaction through getting married have more satisfying sex. What does this mean for women (and men) on campus? If sexuality is a valued part of your nature, the most fulfilling way to realize this is to set it aside and work on developing real, committed relationships. Find someone to spend forever with, and commit to them through marriage. There lie the real treasures of fulfillment and the terrific sex, too. Those who choose to emphasize and flaunt their sexuality attract partners with an unbalanced set of priorities, endangering their relationships at the onset.

Jason Moore

Business, Grad Student